5 Categories Women put Men In, Plus a Bonus

29/03/2011

I see a trend in trying to educate and empower woman, in handling relationships. I feel this will only work if men have the same tools, and they also put the time in to build relationships. Also understand woman have far more categories for men such as; the mama’s boy, the player, the wimp, the lazy ass, we could go on and on, but that’s not the point of this, a lot of great guys are wondering some of the same things women are, and they are looking to be married and have children and hopefully this helps them?

We can only truly be together, if we learn to work together, to build a better union.

KISSES!!!

The One/ The Provider

He is it. We meet you and we say to ourselves “he is the one.” It may not be a smooth road, it might take sometime, but you meet most, if not all our needs (those being): spiritually, mentally, physically and emotionally. You are physically, economically, and educationally desirable. You are the man we can imagine having children with, you have desirable personality traits and are very attractive to us, (though you may not be attractive per say) but you keep yourself up and take care of your inward and outward appearance. You create the Magic, the heat and you take on the responsibilities as a man (protect, provide and profess), allowing us to be the woman. Thus meeting all those womanly needs… ALL of them!

The Meantime/ In-between Time

You are fun to be around, good-looking, pass the test when you meet our friends. You’re dependable and you can always be counted on when we want to go out, were lonely, or we need to get right. But you don’t create that MAGIC, its good, even great, but it’s a dull flame. You’re the one we can be with, without the relationship or go back to in-between relationships. But we can’t commit to you because it’s not the complete package. Often we don’t want you to be with someone when were not, which can lead you to believe we want to be with you, we just don’t want to share our time.

The Forever Friend/NGB (Nice Guy But…)

There is NO physical, emotional or sexual attraction to you. You may be the nicest guy we know, you may treat us well, and we may in our head even try to rationalize what it is about you or why we don’t like you. We may not have always felt this way about you and even given you a try, but maybe after a kiss or an unsuccessful night, we realized the physical attraction was not there and we could only be friends. *Bad kissers beware; if this has happened a few times after a kiss, work your skills a tongue kiss should never be like a shower. This relationship works great if shared mutually by both parties, if not you become the next guy.

The Big Brother/ Cousin

Ok we all have one; better yet we have all created one. You are the forever friend, or NGB who didn’t get it, your attraction and or persistence continued long after we made our stance (verbal or non- verbal). So what do we say to you, “your like a big brother to me.” And this is our final call, to let you know we have no interest in sleeping with you.

The Dream Chaser

We all know him or have meet someone like him, You’re usually between 30-35, maybe younger and still trying to achieve young man dreams, no not to be a fireman, policeman, doctor or lawyer. No you’re trying to be a rapper, a ball player, and an actor with hopes of becoming a leading man. This doesn’t work for women not because we wont support your dream, but in all honesty what is the likeliness that a 35-year-old undiscovered rapper will get discovered. If you’ve been doing it for the last 15 years, almost half your life and you have yet to be discovered, its time to push harder at a new career goal, maybe stage hand to a real rapper or towel boy for a semi pro team… no but seriously, you aren’t stable enough to show you can provide. You’d only be good enough to be a meantime man, if that.

The Baby Maker

We meet you and hear numbers like 2 boys, 1 girl or 4 boys, even 3 boys, 4 girls, who knows??? We think if you touch us we will instantly become pregnant. We become turned off by the numbers and have no desire to hear how many baby mothers are in your situation. Most women just know that’s too much of their hard-earned money and time divided into too many mouths and little bodies that don’t belong to her. Honestly for some women the number can be as small as 1 or 2, but as we get older we believe there aren’t many single men without children. *Note to the Ladies, there are.

(Bonus) NGD (Not Geographically Desirable)

No need to explain, you’re a great guy, your cute, funny, you have all the potential in the world to be the one, but as in real estate it’s all about Location, Location, Location. (This doesn‘t include long distant relationships, it more for a man who lives within the area but outside of the desired mileage radius.) So my suggestion is, don’t buy THE home, buy something that shows you have the potential to move up and own, something in a reasonable driving area, no more than 10 miles and or 30 minutes. Purchase a condo, or something you can turn into income producing property later, real estate that will show you have potential, purchasing power and decent credit. Men this will allow you to purchase something with wifey when the time is right. Understand most women want to BUY A HOME WITH YOU, not move into YOUR house.